Self-discipline is often seen as elusive and something many struggle to achieve. But in reality, self-discipline is like a muscle — it can be trained and strengthened over time. In this article, we’ll guide you through an easy self-discipline ritual that you can start implementing today.
The key to success? Start small and build up gradually.
If you prefer video, I covered this topic here in “A Self Discipline Ritual | A Self Discipline Practice to Live By”
What is Self-Discipline?
Self-discipline is the ability to delay short-term gratification in favor of long-term rewards. In our current society, where instant gratification is the norm, mastering self-discipline can feel like an uphill battle. Whether it’s resisting that dessert or sticking to your morning workout routine, self-discipline enables you to stay focused on your goals despite the temptation to choose easier or more immediate rewards.
While some people are taught self-discipline early in life, many of us were not. If you didn’t develop this skill as a child, you might feel frustrated by your attempts to build it as an adult. The good news is that self-discipline is something you can develop, no matter what your starting point is.
Start Small for Big Results
Most people approach self-discipline with the mindset of lifting metaphorical “300-pound weights” right away, which leads to burnout and frustration. Instead, I recommend starting small. Focus on setting one simple, achievable goal and gradually build from there. You wouldn’t expect to be able to lift 300 lbs. your first day at the gym, would you?
Let’s say your goal is to become healthier. Instead of overhauling your entire lifestyle overnight, pick one small step. For example, you might start with drinking more water each day or cutting out one unhealthy snack. These small actions may seem insignificant, but they create a foundation for long-term success.
Building the Habit of Self-Discipline
As you consistently achieve small goals, you’ll begin to see yourself as someone who has self-discipline. This identity shift is crucial because how you see yourself influences your actions. The more you view yourself as a person who follows through on what you say you’ll do, the more motivated you’ll be to tackle larger challenges.
When you feel confident in your initial habit, add another small goal. Perhaps after mastering your water intake, you add a 10-minute daily walk to your routine. Each new habit strengthens your self-discipline muscle, building your capacity to handle bigger goals in the future.
The Biggest Mistake to Avoid
The biggest mistake people make with self-discipline is trying to do too much, too soon. They become impatient, attempting to lift the “300-pound weights” without having done the proper groundwork. This impatience leads to failure, reinforcing the belief that they lack self-discipline.
Instead, focus on “light reps.” Start with manageable goals, celebrate your progress, and build confidence with each small success. Over time, you’ll be ready for the bigger challenges without overwhelming yourself.
Self-discipline isn’t about diving headfirst into massive changes. You will develop it more easily by setting small, attainable goals, sticking with them, and gradually increasing the scope of new habits as you build confidence. Like any muscle, your self-discipline will grow stronger with consistent, patient effort. Before you know it, you’ll be tackling bigger new habits with ease.
Start small, stay patient, and celebrate each step of progress along the way.
